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Double text

Sending another message before the first one gets an answer.

She sent the plan, then a follow-up, then a meme, all unanswered.

Textingdouble-texttexting

Down bad

Visibly desperate or heartbroken over someone.

He is down bad. He rereads the old texts on the train.

Slangdown-badcrush

Dry texting

Replies so short they kill the conversation.

"Hey." "Hey." "Wyd." "Nm."

Textingdry-textingtexting

DTR

Define the relationship: the talk where you name what you are.

After two months she asked for the DTR instead of guessing.

Relationshipdtrlabels

ENM

Ethical non-monogamy: more than one partner, with honesty and agreements.

They are ENM. The rule is no secrets, not no other people.

Relationshipenmnon-monogamy

Enthusiastic consent

A clear, willing yes, not silence or pressure.

If the yes is fuzzy, you do not continue.

Relationshipconsentsex

Essay text

A very long message, usually after something went wrong.

The essay text arrived at 2 a.m. The apology was in paragraph four.

Textingessaytexting

Ex

Someone you used to date.

The ex texted on a Thursday. She did not owe him a novel.

Relationshipexbreakup

Exclusive

You have agreed not to date or sleep with anyone else.

Exclusive is a sentence you both say, not a vibe you assume.

Relationshipexclusivelabels

Facetime rizz

Charm that only works on video, or a video call used as a date.

Facetime rizz got them through a month in different cities.

Slangfacetimetexting

Finsta

A private second account where people post what they will not put on the main one.

The finsta had the real story. The main feed had the smile.

Socialfinstainstagram

Friend zone

Wanting romance from someone who has been clear they want friendship.

She said she loves him as a friend. He is still waiting it out.

Slangfriend-zonerejection

Fumble

Having a real chance with someone and messing it up.

She was into him. He fumbled it by going cold for a week.

Slangfumblemistake

Future faking

Promising a future you do not intend to build, to keep someone close now.

Trips and meeting his mom, and he will not make Thursday.

Behaviorfuture-fakingred-flag

FWB

Friends with benefits: sex and friendship, without a romantic commitment.

They are clear about it. The trouble starts when one of them is not.

Relationshipfwbcasual

Game

Skill at flirting and moving an interaction forward.

His game was listening. That was the whole trick.

Slanggameflirting

Gaslighting

Making someone doubt their own memory or judgment.

She had the texts. He still said she imagined the promise.

Behaviorgaslightingmanipulation

Ghostee

The person who got ghosted.

The ghostee deserved one sentence. She got none.

Slangghostingsilence

Ghosting

Ending contact with no explanation after you had been talking or seeing each other.

Three good dates, then every text just sat there.

Behaviorghostingsilence

Going Dutch

Splitting the bill on a date.

They went Dutch. Neither of them made it a speech.

Datingdutchmoney

Gold

A paid Tinder tier. People joke that it changes nothing about your texts.

He bought Gold. The opener was still "hey."

Appstinderapps

Green dot

The mark that someone is online right now.

Green dot, no answer. She stopped refreshing.

Appsgreen-dotapps

Green flag

A sign someone is considerate, steady, or safe to keep seeing.

He told his friends he was leaving because he had a date.

Slanggreen-flagflags

Grid

The main Instagram feed, as opposed to stories or a private account.

If they are not on the grid, they are not launched.

Socialgridinstagram

Group photo

A picture with friends where a match cannot tell who you are.

The group photo made her guess. She guessed wrong and swiped left.

Appsphotoapps

Hard launch

A clear public post that says you are together.

Full name, full face, caption that does not hedge.

Socialhard-launchinstagram

Haunting

Lurking on someone's socials after a breakup or a ghost, without speaking.

He views the story every night and never types.

Behaviorhauntingsocial

Healing era

A period of staying single on purpose after a breakup.

She is in her healing era. The apps can wait.

Slanghealingbreakup

Height filter

Refusing matches under a height you set. Common, and often the whole personality.

The height filter did more talking than his prompts.

Appsheightapps

Hey

The opener that gives the other person nothing to answer.

"Hey" is not an opening line. It is a shrug.

Appsheyapps

Himbo

A kind, attractive man who is not trying to be the smartest person in the room.

Himbo energy: he carried the bags and forgot the street name.

Slanghimboattraction

Hinge

A dating app built around prompts instead of only photos.

She answered his prompt, not just his face.

Appshingeapps

Hoe phase

A stretch of dating or sleeping around on purpose, often after a breakup.

Hoe phase was her joke for six months of saying yes.

Slanghoe-phasecasual

Hookup

A sexual encounter that is not a relationship.

They hooked up after the party and did not pretend it was more.

Slanghookupcasual

Hot girl summer

A season of going out, flirting, and not shrinking for anyone.

Hot girl summer meant she stopped waiting on one text thread.

Slangsummersingle

Ick factor

How strong a turn-off hits, from a flinch to a full no.

The ick factor on the baby voice was instant.

Slangickturn-off

Ick list

The personal set of turn-offs you already know will kill attraction.

Baby voice is on her ick list. She does not negotiate it.

Slangickturn-off

Icked out

Hit with the ick. Attraction gone.

She was icked out by the third "mommy" joke.

Slangickturn-off

It's a match

The app telling you that you both liked each other.

It is a match. That is the start, not the date.

Appsmatchapps

It's giving

A way to say the vibe something gives off.

The date is giving interview, not giving flirt.

Slangvibeslang

Just talking

A dodge that means dating without admitting it.

"We are just talking" after twelve dates is a choice.

Relationshiptalkingundefined

K.

A period-sized reply that usually means irritation or dismissal.

She sent "K." He knew not to send another meme.

Textingktexting

Kick it

Hang out. Sometimes innocent, sometimes a date in disguise.

Come kick it can mean a couch and a movie, or a date he will not call a date.

Slangkick-itplans

Kink

A specific sexual interest outside the most conventional script.

She named the kink early. He either opted in or opted out.

Slangkinksex

Kit-fishing

Using someone else's photos with your own life, a cousin of catfishing.

The face was his roommate. The job was fiction.

Appscatfishapps

Labels

Names like girlfriend, boyfriend, exclusive, or casual.

He said labels ruin things. She said unlabeled was already a label.

Relationshiplabelscommitment

Last seen

The timestamp of when someone was last in the app.

Last seen at 11:41. Her message was at 11:40.

Textinglast-seentexting

Left on read

A message that was seen and not answered.

The read receipt is on. The reply is not coming.

Textingleft-on-readtexting